The power to hurt
First a few rather very common lines...
"With great power comes great responsibility"- Spiderman
"A Hero lies in you"- Mariah Carey
We are often plagued by the fact that people hurt us. This is a fact of life. This simply means that people have hurt us in the past and will hurt us in the future. Is there a way to insulate ourselves from it? The answer is no and should be no as a painless existence cain wait for those of us who attain paradise but for me I m pretty happy at the present life on earth with its vagaries of pleasures and pain.
However the one important fact that my past experiences in the last two months has taught me is that the power to hurt is something you give people, consciously and unconsciously. You give it most of the time unconsciously as you fall in love with them, get attached to them, respect them etc.
But, once they hurt you they fall from that pedestal. This is when they didn't live up to that first rule from Spiderman. They didn't live up to that responsibility which the power gave them. They let you down. They were wrong. They can justify it in whichever way they want but the fact is that they don't deserve that power any more, and now more than ever is the time for you to consciously take it away from them. This is not just necessary but right too. In some ways its even linked to the Ayn Rand philosophy of "The evil of the world is made possible by the sanction we give to it". This is evil and you should not give sanction to it. It is in fact the duty of most people around to take away whatever they might have given to this person because this person has proved to be unworthy of such a priviledge.
Its also in times like this that you look at the fact that not only is the power being taken away; it is being taken away by you. This is where the second rule comes in that "A Hero Lies in You". As far as you are concerned this is probably the lowest ebb your life has ever hit and if anyone has to pull you out of it it has to be you. As one of my friends once put it aptly "Go through the process... it makes a man out of you".
"With great power comes great responsibility"- Spiderman
"A Hero lies in you"- Mariah Carey
We are often plagued by the fact that people hurt us. This is a fact of life. This simply means that people have hurt us in the past and will hurt us in the future. Is there a way to insulate ourselves from it? The answer is no and should be no as a painless existence cain wait for those of us who attain paradise but for me I m pretty happy at the present life on earth with its vagaries of pleasures and pain.
However the one important fact that my past experiences in the last two months has taught me is that the power to hurt is something you give people, consciously and unconsciously. You give it most of the time unconsciously as you fall in love with them, get attached to them, respect them etc.
But, once they hurt you they fall from that pedestal. This is when they didn't live up to that first rule from Spiderman. They didn't live up to that responsibility which the power gave them. They let you down. They were wrong. They can justify it in whichever way they want but the fact is that they don't deserve that power any more, and now more than ever is the time for you to consciously take it away from them. This is not just necessary but right too. In some ways its even linked to the Ayn Rand philosophy of "The evil of the world is made possible by the sanction we give to it". This is evil and you should not give sanction to it. It is in fact the duty of most people around to take away whatever they might have given to this person because this person has proved to be unworthy of such a priviledge.
Its also in times like this that you look at the fact that not only is the power being taken away; it is being taken away by you. This is where the second rule comes in that "A Hero Lies in You". As far as you are concerned this is probably the lowest ebb your life has ever hit and if anyone has to pull you out of it it has to be you. As one of my friends once put it aptly "Go through the process... it makes a man out of you".
posted by Abilin Mukherjee at 5:35 AM
8 Comments:
I think this is one the best posts I have ever read so far.
I have often wondered aboout the insulation from getting hurt. I have often wondered if we can strong enough taht nothing hurts us any more. Can we ever become like that? This has been a question that has always bothered me.
Too well written!!
hmmmm...right. the world of imagination gives license for people to theorise and stuff...but there is no fate. you decide your life...your hurt...so, be the man!
Why don't you write more often?
Why don't you write more often?
Strikes a chord somewhere :)
Strikes a chord somewhere :)
I've been soul searching since I was hurt badly pretty recently by someone very close to me and I wanted to figure out what to do to avoid such things. Great article!
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